Hapiness

Can We Learn Happiness?

                  Humans are programmed to search pleasure.  Adults search nice cozy sensations just that many of this pleasures - like for example the one that involves sex, food alcohol, etc, - do not last. Things that we enjoy to full and saturate us for a short period of time soon will loose their value. A small piece of cheese, tasted slowly could provoke more pleasure then an entire gourmand meal. Even that we cant experience all the time intense pleasures, sometimes we should take a break and we should focus on trying to diminish our daily worries, to putt aside ''the day of tomorrow'' and to stop for a moment our ego, put aside ambitions and greed. 

               Long lasting happiness is not assured by wealth but by the social relationships, by the interactions with those among us that bring joy and are inspiring our daily. Happiness it's not found in the small pleasures; being ''happy'' means sometimes to conquer your fears, to live in harmony and peace with others and animals. 

                    This state of mind ans soul does not come all of a sudden but has to be created in an active way continuously brig after brick same as building a wall. Missing worries and daily stress it's not enough for feeling happy because it's awkward, but there are people without worries and who are bored to death. Happiness it's awesome but it demands some effort to be be put in order to be achieved. 
                There is not a certain recipe that an individual should follow in order to achieve ''happiness'' but those that are studying the subject came up with some elementary rules that  once followed should help us achieve this state. 

These rules are simple and really practical: 

  

- Be active!: 

            Our brain needs a lot of activity and intellectual laziness creates bad disposition. If we rest only for a day, it is said that neurons die (not true - they are not receiving the appropriate inputs). If mind it's not put to work will atrophy itself, process usually associated with apathy and depression. Doing sports and training the body it's a good way to follow this instruction because mind is being re-compensated for the physical effort by forming brand new neuronal connections. Small hobbies can improve the joy in our lives.

- Have a social life! : 

       A life partner, the family and friends can create an environment in which to feel ourselves important, reliable, respected and protected. A happy experience is more intense if it's being lived with your life partner, with your kids or a close friend. 

- Concentrate!: 

   

              Well chosen pleasures increase the joy of living as for example, a short moment of pleasure: the perfume of a flower, the beauty of shapes, the taste of a small piece of cheese.

- Have real expectations!: 

            Happiness depends of our own expectations and often we ask either too much from ourselves or too little and both situations bring disappointment. The one who asks too much form himself, will experience lot of stress and the one who does the opposite will be missing dopamine (states of lethargy and passiveness)

- Think positive! 

                  Happiness sensations are not just a happening, but a consequence of our thoughts and of positive feelings which generates pleasure and help us avoid displeasure. An advice of the ''psychology of happiness'' is  '' do not take yourself too seriously, laugh of your mistakes and of yourself.    
                 Don't take too into serious the search for happiness. There is an art to pass through and overcome our unpleasant experiences.

                                     

- Pleasure derivatives from work :

              Strongly connected to the first rule (be active),  works constrains us to be active and tho most of us need this pressure. Work is the best psychotherapy

Is there anything else, more important then being happy and achieving the ultimate state - happiness?